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extropalopakettle
No offense, but....
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Posted: Sat Sep 17, 2011 2:12 pm Post subject: 1 |
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Public restrooms, locker rooms and showers at gyms, etc. are often (almost always, always) in pairs, one for men, one for women. If a man persistently goes into the women's restroom or locker room or showers, he'd be subject to some serious rebuke, and maybe get arrested.
Question: Why is this acceptable, but a similar separation of white versus non-white would be unacceptable? |
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JDTAY
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Posted: Sat Sep 17, 2011 2:51 pm Post subject: 2 |
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Since 80% of women drop dead at the sight of my glorious junk, I'd say yeah, it's best to keep them protected. _________________ Prohibit nothing. Disclose everything. |
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MNOWAX
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Posted: Sat Sep 17, 2011 2:53 pm Post subject: 3 |
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| JDTAY wrote: |
| Since 80% of women drop dead at the sight of my glorious junk, I'd say yeah, it's best to keep them protected. |
just jumped in to say that was funny.
I have no opinion on the subject. _________________ The Man The Myth The Legend
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ralphmerridew
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Posted: Sat Sep 17, 2011 3:26 pm Post subject: 4 |
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I remember reading that having separate male/female restrooms has come under fire from transgendered groups who don't identify as either gender. Their desired remedy was that future construction have individual unisex restrooms.
That aside, I favor separate bathrooms for males and females (definitely towards separate locker rooms), but can't fully explain why I find that acceptable, but not racial separation.
Largely, I'd say that having separate racial facilities were used for the express purpose of being degrading to blacks; but having separate facilities based on gender was not. (Even the problems TG people had were unintentional.)
Also, if one restroom had a long line and the other was unoccupied, and people started using the opposite room, with gendered separation, that would generally be acceptable (provided that they cleared out should the intended gender appear); while a black person who entered the white restroom for any reason would likely face retribution. |
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extropalopakettle
No offense, but....
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Posted: Sat Sep 17, 2011 7:51 pm Post subject: 5 |
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| MNOWAX wrote: |
| JDTAY wrote: |
| Since 80% of women drop dead at the sight of my glorious junk, I'd say yeah, it's best to keep them protected. |
just jumped in to say that was funny. |
Very funny, but it totally contradicts his sig. |
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movwills
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Posted: Fri Oct 07, 2011 5:55 am Post subject: 6 |
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I don't think so They both are equal and human beings.. _________________ A organization Veronica Mars and The unit works for the people and country to make it a safe place to live... |
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raekuul
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Posted: Fri Oct 07, 2011 1:29 pm Post subject: 7 |
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| I think the question the poll is really asking is "would you be comfortable in a co-ed bathroom?" |
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Jack_Ian
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Posted: Fri Oct 07, 2011 6:09 pm Post subject: 8 |
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| I don't want to hear women grunt under the strain. Kinda ruins the mystique. |
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Zag
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Posted: Fri Oct 07, 2011 6:12 pm Post subject: 9 |
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I often have to go into women's bathrooms to help my wife, when the "handicapped" stalls are not up to her requirements. It always makes me very uncomfortable. If it were the norm and expected, then it would, still, but less so. I echo Jack_Ian's comment, and I also reverse it: I don't want women hearing me.
I realize that this is contrary to my aversion to the "separate but equal" attempts that were made in the 1960's. However, a huge part of the aversion comes from the fact that they never were equal, not even close. |
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jadesmar
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Posted: Tue Oct 11, 2011 5:32 am Post subject: 10 |
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| How many facilities would it take to have separate racial facilities? Why is white vs. non-white a reasonable separation? Based on world population, it'd probably be like chinese vs. non-chinese. Based on your local population, it'd be something like black vs. non-black, latino vs. non-latino or maybe something else. |
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Zag
Tired of his old title
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Posted: Tue Oct 11, 2011 11:49 am Post subject: 11 |
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| jadesmar wrote: |
| Why is white vs. non-white a reasonable separation? |
Umm, I don't think anyone here is claiming that it is. |
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extro...*
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Posted: Tue Oct 11, 2011 12:28 pm Post subject: 12 |
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| Zag wrote: |
| jadesmar wrote: |
| Why is white vs. non-white a reasonable separation? |
Umm, I don't think anyone here is claiming that it is. |
I think he was referring to the original question, where I asked why male - female separation is acceptable, but white - nonwhite is not ... While white - nonwhite isn't, it was (or might seem) an arbitrarily chosen racial division, and thus would be unreasonable for its arbitrariness.
I'm still wondering what the rational is that people who would be appalled at racial separation would not have a problem with a guy being arrested for regularly using women only facilities in the name of equal rights. |
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Zag
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Posted: Tue Oct 11, 2011 4:16 pm Post subject: 13 |
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I guess that the rationalization is that there actually are legitimate differences between men and women w.r.t. how they use the bathroom (that is, their personal plumbing).
If you were to propose the same distinction in water fountains, restaurants, etc. then I would oppose it, because there are no basic difference between men and women in how they eat or drink. |
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Pablo
Never Draws a Blank
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Posted: Tue Oct 11, 2011 5:29 pm Post subject: 14 |
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| Zag wrote: |
I guess that the rationalization is that there actually are legitimate differences between men and women w.r.t. how they use the bathroom (that is, their personal plumbing).
If you were to propose the same distinction in water fountains, restaurants, etc. then I would oppose it, because there are no basic difference between men and women in how they eat or drink. |
That's one theory. In some cultures, who knows...it may be that people don't eat in public. Fact is, it is well established, for WHATEVER reason, that using the bathroom is a private matter in OUR culture, and that eating and drinking are not private matters. It may or may not be based on our relative plumbing. At one time, like it or not, it was accepted in our culture that black and white was a "legitimate" difference and enough to base separation of bathroom facilities on. We are all glad the culture changed in that regard, but in any case, I would propose that these things are cultural, not physical. If we all decided to change our culture right now to co-ed facilities, I would speculate that a couple generations from now, no one would thnk twice about it. _________________ All religions are the same - Guilt....just with different holidays. |
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extro...*
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Posted: Tue Oct 11, 2011 6:25 pm Post subject: 15 |
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I'm pretty sure it's not a plumbing issue. The only difference I'm aware of is urinals for men. And what of locker rooms, steam rooms, saunas at gyms for instance? No difference at all there. Why separate? Why do we tolerate it?
| Pablo wrote: |
| Fact is, it is well established, for WHATEVER reason, that using the bathroom is a private matter in OUR culture, and that eating and drinking are not private matters. ... At one time, like it or not, it was accepted in our culture that black and white was a "legitimate" difference and enough to base separation of bathroom facilities on. We are all glad the culture changed in that regard, but in any case, I would propose that these things are cultural, not physical. If we all decided to change our culture right now to co-ed facilities, I would speculate that a couple generations from now, no one would thnk twice about it. |
But if we don't switch to co-ed facilities, how long before people say "hey, wait a minute, this is no different than separating blacks from whites"? This is accepted, that was accepted but now isn't, kind of glosses over our ability to reason about it. Was separating blacks from whites any less wrong when it was accepted? |
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Pablo
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Posted: Tue Oct 11, 2011 7:03 pm Post subject: 16 |
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Was separating blacks from whites any less wrong when it was accepted? |
Within the culture, no, it was not "wrong". However, the culture changed. Why? Well, for one thing, the minority of black people became a larger minority and with the advent of mass media, i.e. radio and TV, they became a "louder" minority. As they asserted their rights, they appealed to our collective conscience and the culture gradually changed as a result. So, reason was actually applied. There was a time when it was ok to drop a cigarette butt on the ground. The culture changed to the degree that now it's barely ok to smoke. Will the culture change to reject separate facilities for men and women? I would say unlikely because no one in this situation feels that their rights are being denied. If the time comes when women (or men) absolutely demand to share facilities, I suppose it could happen, but it's hard to see what would precipitate that. _________________ All religions are the same - Guilt....just with different holidays. |
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MatthewV
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Posted: Tue Oct 11, 2011 8:44 pm Post subject: 17 |
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I always wonder when there are two bathrooms (one for men and one for women) and both of them have a single locking door. As far as I know there is no difference between the two rooms except the sign outside.
But the change I would really like to see in bathrooms is urinal dividers that actually prevented seeing the guy next to you. That whole issue with using every other spot could be avoided.
I try to avoid public restrooms as much as possible. On campus I know which ones are pleasant and worth the extra five minutes of walking for peace of mind. |
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extro...*
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Posted: Wed Oct 12, 2011 2:47 am Post subject: 18 |
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| But the change I would really like to see in bathrooms is urinal dividers that actually prevented seeing the guy next to you. |
I've never seen the guy next to me. You look down. Or at the tiles directly in front of you. Check out the grout work. |
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MatthewV
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Posted: Wed Oct 12, 2011 7:22 am Post subject: 19 |
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| Yeah, I know. But not having to focus on such things would be nice. And how ofter do you take a urinal next to someone? If a bathroom has 3 urinals, only two of them will be used. With proper dividers, men would actually use all three. |
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Pablo
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Posted: Wed Oct 12, 2011 11:03 am Post subject: 20 |
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When you get to my age, you couldn't care less who's next to you. You're just thankful there's an open one.  _________________ All religions are the same - Guilt....just with different holidays. |
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Stubby
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Posted: Wed Oct 12, 2011 11:19 am Post subject: 21 |
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The doctor told Quailman that he should sit down when he urinates.
It's his back - he's not supposed to lift heavy weights.  |
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Suspence
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itisally
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Posted: Thu Oct 13, 2011 2:07 am Post subject: 23 |
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What's interesting to me is that I have seen an increase in "family" restrooms. Usually there is still a mens and a womens, but between there is a small restroom for families. I tell you I appriciated it when I had to take my 4 year old son out with out dad. But even more so for my stay at home dad friends who had daughters. It becomes a matter of modesty and privacy. Not that I would be apposed to general use restrooms, but please put the uranals in a real stall. _________________ I could agree with you, but then we would both be wrong. |
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Pablo
Never Draws a Blank
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Posted: Thu Oct 13, 2011 2:16 am Post subject: 24 |
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| Stubby wrote: |
The doctor told Quailman that he should sit down when he urinates.
It's his back - he's not supposed to lift heavy weights.  |
Ha ha. Hey Stubby - tell Q that he's not supposed to eat those urinal cakes. _________________ All religions are the same - Guilt....just with different holidays. |
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Lepton*
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Posted: Mon Oct 24, 2011 8:13 pm Post subject: 25 |
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I've had a bit of experience with unisex toilets. At my school in Mongolia, the facilities were unisex. I was hiking in northern Spain last week, and several of the aubergues had unisex facilities as well. In both these cases, the toilets (and showers) were in individual stalls, and there were no urinals, so there was no risk of seeing anything. In both these experiences, too, I became used to changing, down to the underwear, in close proximity to strangers of the opposite sex.
As others have stated, it seems to be an issue of cultural norms. I cannot help but feel such norms are slowly becoming relaxed, at least outside of North America. |
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